A decade of dating has taught Taylor Swift some harsh truths about love. And the girl who specializes in “tit for tat” is now tired of fighting and having her love relationships discussed by everyone.

“Never turn yourself into someone else to hold on to a relationship, instead find a guy who loves you for who you are,” Taylor Swift shared with Vanity Fair. “And if he cheats on you or wants to make the relationship worse, say goodbye frankly… I will never engage in an unfair relationship again.” Those are Taylor’s confessions after nearly ten years of dating guys who are considered the dreams of millions of girls.

But most of all, Taylor learned that it’s hard to date when you’re one of the most famous people in the world. Let’s look back at Taylor’s previous love affairs with Jake Gyllenhaal, Conor Kennedy, Harry Styles or Calvin Harris… All of which Taylor publicly announced in the press and shared in interviews, in exchange for no more love affairs. It’s a private matter too.

And in the end, all of those love relationships ended unsatisfactorily, and the one who suffered the most here seemed to be Taylor because in the end she was the one who received criticism and bad reputation. Confessing about a past love is inherently normal, but putting it in her songs and creating an investment MV has unintentionally labeled Taylor as a girl who likes to brag about her collection of famous boyfriends. My reputation and achievements of “conquest” are greater.

Taylor’s previous songs written about ex-lovers also had the tendency to “confess”. Songs written about John Mayer like “Dear John”, about Harry Styles and Jake Gyllenhaal like “I knew you were trouble” or “We are never ever getting back together” are all like mocking sarcasm for the guys Taylor has dated. hang out together.

Besides, the musical denunciations, the implicitly insinuating interviews or sarcastic comments on Twitter between Taylor and “rivals” like Katy Perry, the Kimye couple… are also causing Taylor’s image to be shaken in the eyes of the public, she was labeled a “poisonous snake” and “fake” as she went further and further away from the image of the gentle and innocent blonde country music princess she once was. .

“I felt like my dating life had become a national pastime, and I felt uncomfortable and decided I wasn’t going to provide that type of entertainment anymore,” she told Rolling Stone in 2015. 2014.

“I don’t want to give people the opportunity to make fun of me at awards shows with sarcastic comments like ‘Be careful, she’ll write a song about you’ because that shows they have contempt for the public.” my job. And above all, all of those things will gradually create an invisible pressure that ruins every relationship even before it officially begins. Therefore, I am stopping dating.”

No longer the innocent girl with big round eyes dreaming about pink love “You’re the princess and I’m the prince” like in Love Story, “I have realized that love is happily ever after.” “It can’t happen in real life. There is no prospect of the two riding horses towards the sun when the movie ends because the film of life continues to film.”

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I now understand better that when you are in love with someone, you mistakenly assume that everything they do is perfect. So, if you are lucky enough to meet the right person, instead of thinking like that and becoming disillusioned, think that maybe that person is not as perfect as you think, but you still want to see that person every day.”

Above all, after many relationships that ended quickly, Taylor understands better than anyone that public dating, especially for someone who is stalked 24/7 like Taylor, is not suitable for relationships. emotional system. That’s why, when she met her new lover, Joe Alwyn, who is 1 year younger than her, Taylor tried her best to keep it from happening again. No more photos, no more interviews, no more hysteria or any speculation. When Taylor is ready, she will talk about it herself. Her love story will no longer have any audience.

That might be a bit of an extreme reaction because many famous people still love each other in front of the press. But according to Taylor, “only a genius can cut off 20 paparazzi so that he can peacefully date some guy.” That’s why, with Joe Alwyn, Taylor behaved in a completely different way…

Taylor and Joe only met at private locations, away from paparazzi and reporters. Even after their relationship was discovered, they continued to maintain that type of dating. Taylor and Joe have never appeared together on any red carpet events.

In June 2017, the two were secretly photographed by paparazzi while drinking coffee on the balcony of her penthouse apartment in Nashville, Tennesee.

Even Taylor’s biggest fan can’t know how long they loved each other or how they met. However, anyone who is observant can still notice hints about Joe through the song Gorgeous: “I have a boyfriend and he is older than the two of us” implicitly referring to Tom Hiddleston or “Ocean Eyes”. Green” by Joe Alwyn. Those clues led fans to link the event of Taylor and Alwyn appearing together at the same location in L.A. in the summer of 2016 – right before she broke up with Tom Hiddleston. A month later, the two were again at a party in New York and Taylor was spotted with Joe’s mother and two sisters going to the movies.

Taylor’s three previous ex-boyfriends all shared about the difficulty of dating someone as famous as Taylor. Harry Styles says having a date completely captured on camera was the experience of a lifetime. Meanwhile, Tom Hiddleston said “I’m still trying to have a private life, I want to protect it while still not having to hide it.”

As for Calvin Harris, he praised Taylor for always trying to keep the relationship out of the media spotlight. “It’s very difficult when something I consider private ends up being exposed in the most public way,” he told Billboard.

As for Joe, Taylor not only flew to London on her private plane, she also chose to land the plane far from the airport, prepared a personal driver and a car with flash-proof black windows to travel. moved to Alwyn’s house in North London. And instead of going to customs, Taylor even asked for a special immigration stamp right on the plane. The source revealed: “She has a full itinerary for dating and leaves almost no trace.”

Taylor also has other tactics to get Alwyn to her penthouses in Nashville and Tribeca. Both are people who like to stay at home. Instead of dining out, they choose to buy food and cook it themselves or order food to be delivered to their home, like they did last June.

If they are forced to go out, the indispensable holy trinity is an army of bodyguards as crowded as ants, a closed car, and a hoodie that covers their heads to help them move around without being detected by reporters. Taylor even wore wigs and disguises many times to go on dates with Joe in London, determined not to give the press a chance to talk about them.

For the first time in her dating history, Taylor has never mentioned Joe Alwyn in any interview. She is also rarely seen holding hands with Joe. If accidentally caught by the paparazzi, Taylor and Joe always smile happily, but they are only in each other’s eyes, not paying attention to anyone else. , nor acting in front of the camera to brag about anything. Alwyn has never appeared on Taylor’s Instagram, nor is he really active on Twitter.

The only two people who are said to have met Joe Alwyn are Taylor’s two closest friends: Selena Gomez and Ed Sheeran. During the recording session at Capital Breakfast radio station, Ed indirectly admitted that Taylor had introduced him to his new boyfriend by commenting about Joe: “He’s very nice. Very friendly and a good guy.” And Selena was more discreet, saying, “Whatever makes my friend happy also makes me happy.”

Since falling in love with Joe Alwyn, Taylor has become more secretive, no longer composes music that “slanders” her ex, nor is she as active on social networks as before. Joe really showed Taylor a different lifestyle and the true value of a private life. In the album Reputation, Taylor has many sweet and profound love songs, but strangely there is not a single song that “blames” or “accuses” her ex-lover.

Only by falling in love with Joe Alwyn could fans witness the end of the six-year disagreement between Taylor and Katy Perry. In May 2018, Taylor suddenly posted a photo on Instagram’s story of a letter-covered card that was Katy’s message to Taylor along with a laurel wreath symbolizing peace.

The couple promised to protect each other’s private lives, and will use every possible means to maintain such a life.

So what makes Joe Alwyn different from all the guys before him?

Although Joe is active in the entertainment field, such as modeling and acting, he only really attracted attention when he played the main role in Billy Lynn’s Long Halftime Walk, alongside Kristen Stewart. But in terms of popularity, Joe is not as good as Taylor’s previous boyfriends like Joe Jonas, Calvin Harris, Harry Styles or Jake Gyllenhaal.

In the song Delicate, Taylor sings: “My reputation has never been worse than it is now, so you must like me for who I am, right? Dark jeans and Nikes, look at me, baby I’ve never seen such blue eyes.” As if implicitly thanking Joe for loving her true self. In the song New Year’s Day, released from the album Reputation, Joe Alwyn is said to be the guy mentioned in the song “You squeezed my hand three times in the back of the taxi, I knew it was going to be a great trip.” go long”.

It turns out, whether we are Taylor Swift, or just a normal person, when we meet the right person, all of us will change. There will come a time, when a person has failed too much in love, when the heart has suffered enough hurt, everyone will learn their own lesson and change to love properly and be loved. happier.